Information, perception and relationship

It has been like 4 months since my last post here in my blog and here is a post I hope can break the silence for a while. Is there someone out there really follow my blog? I doubt it because you can’t find anything flashy here except my ramblings towards this world of which I love to observe.

4 months of not writing anything here sure does makes my writing skills go rusty but the matter that I want to present all of you this time is something which I have given my thought for about 6 months but now I dare to write it here because I have confirm it to be true.

Relationships or bonds of which we people have towards ourselves, between ourselves are heavily rely on information of the other party that we currently have. Information affects relationship in such a way that if “A” have more positive information about “B”, “A” can be considered to like “B”. The opposite also true in this case where if you have more bad information on other person, you’re bound to dislike that person. This really makes me half agree with a Malay idiom “Tak kenal maka tak cinta” [You won’t love it if you don’t know it] and totally agree with a Muslim scholar who said;

If you love someone, love that person adequately. If you hate someone, hate that person adequately. For the person whom you love can become the person whom you hate and the person whom you hate may become the person whom you love.

Even though I totally agree with the above quote but the quote still doesn’t tell us how we can change our perception towards another person in question. The answer is simple, information. Information affects judgment and perception that we have towards something.

Like human relationship, the more we know someone the more we love/hate that someone in which this depends on what information that we have of that person throughout those years. If all are positive information, we are bound to like that person and vice versa.

Information is an element of which I considered to be acquisitive or accumulative in nature of which it cannot be decreased but increasing in time. This means that the quote above [again] remain true to itself that we can change our perception from hate to love or vice versa in time or when there is additional information acquired.

If we want to like a person that we are currently hate, we have to add more positive information about that person then sooner or later we begin to like that person. The opposite is also true when we currently like a person but negative rumors linger around that person and we eventually hate that person.

This topic does not stop on human relationship alone but also hold true to any kind of relationship such as political or business world. Example for political is during election when each candidates will try to win the support of the people by fulfilling the promises the candidate made before or being a role model for the people. That is why some candidate will act in front of the people the way the people desire just to build his/her image.

In business world, information is really a critical element where each corporations always building their image or brands aggressively. That is why there is war in advertisements and innovations where each corporation will try to get as many market shares as possible by introducing more attractive model etc. this act of putting more advertisements and introducing new models or innovations are an act of adding more positive information of the corporation. No corporations in the world want to have a bad image of them that is why they will try to combat every bad rumor from spreading and some even resort to lobbying the media from spreading it because once it spreads, the reputation crumbles and the corporation may go bankrupt due to its share price go downhill.

Ok, that’s it for now. Thanks for reading.

Motivators VS Sellers. Both ask you to think.

Previously I have given you all a simple equation; “comparing” or “differentiating” equals to thinking. In mathematical equations it should be like this:-

Comparing or Differentiating = Thinking

Both motivators and sellers or salespersons are selling their product and services to you by forcing you, asking you to think. The only difference between them is that the motivator wants you to think and assists you to think while salesperson wants you to think but he/she does the thinking for you. It is just a matter of how they present their product or services.

How to motivate? Usually in any seminar held anywhere, the motivator always tells you a story of a failure and a winner. He/she tells you that a failure is those who have hard times but fails to overcome it while the winner is those who have hard times but succeeds in overcoming it. You see, the motivator actually forces you to think by making you comparing the situations of the failure and the winner. Need less to say, the only skills that a motivator has is actually showing you the differences between the good and the bad of in an inspiring intonations or their own professional way of speaking. The effect you receive is placebo, a pretend pill where it goes, “when you think about it, you’ll get it”.

Now, we are off to the salesperson side. This guy will do the thinking for you although he gives you the chance to think; he usually cut your thinking short and forces his idea on you. He won’t let you think for long and always interrupted you thinking mode by asking you to buy his product. The one who uses this method is always meet his sales target in which he calls this method as “short, simple and effective”. Of course it is short and quick since he is the one who do the thinking for you.

What he does when he sells his product is he introduces the product first. He then explains all kinds of advantages of the product and probably will exaggerate and brags the product advantages by condemning substitute products made by their brand rivals. He does the comparisons for you, he does the thinking for you and finally the choice that you have is to either buy his product or not. The period or segment where you are left to think of your decision will most likely is interrupted by him in whom he will keep on repeating the product differences again and again.

Comparing and Differentiating are Thinking

Five days ago, I went to Low Yat just to fetch up some price lists from 5 different stores. As expected, though all 5 are selling the same product, that very same product has different prices. Usually we just buy the product we want at the cheapest available price but after weighing out everything from the price, warranty period, warranty service, popularity and goodwill; I finally decided to not buying anything because I went there just to window shopping.


Hitting the topic, the act of measuring or weighing out the price, warranty period etc are the act of differentiating them or comparing them to each other in order to get the desired result which is to get the product at the cheapest price with good after sale services. What I was doing when I did the differentiating and comparing the product etc was thinking. In short, thinking is comparing or differentiating the benefit to whether to take or leave the steps, decisions or choices.


Everyone is capable of thinking no matter how high or how low their IQ level is. What differentiates them is the scope they are thinking in. When a person think about the benefit of the choices that he/she have to make in its whole aspects, the person is thinking in macro level or he/she is a macro-thinker. The opposite would be a micro-thinker or thinking in a micro level which is thinking of the benefit of one option for one specific purpose only. The decision to take one option from another becomes more reasonable when the benefit is on macro level while a micro thinker can make the micro level choices become reasonable by adding up more reasons why he/she make that choice.


Further explanation can be made in order to assist you all into better understanding of both micro-thinker and macro-thinker. It is best to say that a macro-thinker’s perspective is that he/she made certain decisions if the benefit received is for a long period of time. Micro-thinker on the other hand, only thinks for short lived benefits.


Certainly, every people are hybrid. We are all a hybrid combination of both macro-thinker and micro-thinker because the decisions that we have to make relies heavily upon the situation an in each situation we might switch from thinking macro to micro level and vice versa. Using the first paragraph’s scenario, my act of weighing out the price, the after sale services etc is considered as thinking in macro level as buying things at the lowest possible price yields me extra money to save while being selective on choosing which stores offers the best after sales services gives me a peace of mind in case if the product is a faulty one.


Then again, the reason why I want to buy the product is because I want to upgrade my pc so that I can play new games which are a micro level of benefit. So, given the situation we might have to combine both micro and macro level of thinking.

World = Acceptance

How do you define the world? For me, I define it as general or common. If people accept something as common , general or normal hence it is one of the world 'attributes'. When people generally use money for transactions hence we can say that the world's transactions are using money. It is what people generally accept. Yeah, this writings are inspired by the definition of money itself where money is defined as a generally accepted means of transaction.

Here, I'm not going to 'preach' about money and it's uses but rather the term "world equals to acceptance". It is a philosophy that I want to talk about. What is your world? Your world is the 'world' that accepts you. When you're doing something and that something satisfies you, you feel like being accepted and you'll think in your mind "This is it.This is my world". It is a kind of 'place' where you feels like 'home'.

Why people need relationships? Because when you seek relationship, you seek a 'world'. You seek a group of people who accept you. There are various examples that I can give here. First one would be, "Why is there a gang of teenagers 'promoting' a culture? Let's say hip hop for the example. Teenagers who adore hip hop dress like one and act like one. Why they do that? It is because they accept hip hop as their world.

Another example would be, why some teenagers do bad things? We know that they do certain thing so that their gang will respect them. All those immoral thingies like illegal racing, immoral acts and such; they do that because they want to be accepted by their gang. As to why they never care about people's view on them is because they no longer regard the people as their 'world'. When people rejects them, they feel nothing because they now live in a different world.

The definition of this 'world' is not something meek or trivial but a heavy one as a 'world' is a place one belongs to. It is 'home'. As it is a 'home', it is something worth protecting hence many people will stop at nothing to protect their 'home'. Going back to the context of teenagers, for them who is still searching their own path of life; this is the crucial stage which parents must fully keep their focus high on their teenage child. But still, as the proverb states that "don't cry over spilled milk"; there is also another phrase that goes "it is never too late for anything". Even proverb has its refutation which almost identical to the principle of Zen. Though the development of a child 'world' must begin as early as 7 of age, if some parents somehow neglect their child at this stage; it is never too late to teach them, to show them the 'world' that you want your child belongs. Just have some care and show it not in a warden's way but that of a friend.

What kind of person are you?

I’ve been slacking off lately, losing my drive and momentum which can help me further my study. Should I get married? You see, some students are lucky enough to get married during their study years; supported by their parents thus having almost no financial problem. Yep, I wish I have that kind of family but you see; your existing family is those who shape you to be who you are today. If you said that you hate yourself, maybe you actually mean that you hated the way your family brought you up.

Enough talk! Time to get even~!

Actually what I want to talk today is about “There are 3 of 1 thing” and if you’ve read the title, it should be “There are 3 types of people.” If anyone finds what I am about to talk about is subjected to plagiarism then I apologize because what I am about to talk is something that has been on my mind about 5 years already. Here goes nothing!

There are 3 of 1 thing. There are 3 kinds of people; one who leads, one who follows and one who observes. All of them are self-explanatory yet let me enlighten you more.

One who leads is one who creates something and while doing it, he achieves something which attracts others who then decides to follow him. Consider ‘one who leads’ as a trendsetter. He creates, sets a trend which people will follow. This type of person is usually smart and proud, one who definitely changes the norms.

One who follows is one who follows the one who leads. Most people belong to this category. Popular things like fads and fashions are glorified by this type of people. Without these people, revolution and reformation will not move/happen as leaders need to have their support.

One who observes is one who takes up the stance of ‘wait and see’. They do not move unless when necessary. Usually these people like to give their opinion about the world and they often give either praises or critics on every system. It is very difficult to gain support from these people unless you are able to impress them, pique their interest.

So, what kind of people are you? After all, these are just ‘my theory’. Feel free to debate about it.