Between Care and Busybody

It is said that if you care about someone too much will make you receive an award for being busybody. Well, it's not an award but rather an insult. what about when parents asking their child "where are you going?".

It is a simple question but most teenagers never answer the question straight forward, always answer it with a sinister remarks and a mental state of being pissed. Simple question needs simple answer but with simple answer comes another barrage of questions from their parents which is why the teenagers never want to answer that SIMPLE question.

Why the parents ask those questions? Is there a need for asking that question? Parents know that their child will be pissed hearing that question which is like a declaration of war between two nations, parents versus child. Parents who ask the question are parents who care about their children not busybody.

It is weird. Often we hear that one of the reasons for a child/teenager misbehaves is because of lack of attention from their parents. Is that true? It is more to an excuse than a reason. Children misbehave not to grab the attention from their parents but friends instead. Call it peer pressure. Apart of being with their parents, children spend most of their time with friends. Friends draw most part on the white sheet than parents. Parents are nothing but an observer.

Marriage and Life

Marriage... a holy ritual which permits sex between a man and a woman which also permits them to have children. It is something to be respected for, this ritual; which we do it for the sake of creating life (children). What is marriage to us now? A ritual or just something you want to experience?

Marriage ceremonies are held to announce the people that a pair of humans are now allowed to live together and to have sex. Nowadays, marriage is just for show. People held it in grandiose manner, bride or groom asking for high dowries. What is this? There is no need for all that! What we need are just a simple wedding ceremony and an affordable dowries to both individual.

Even though they announce their relationship to all people but actually even before they get wed, they have had plenty of sex which occasionally the female one got pregnant and they have to wed. Marriage has become a tool to conceal their shame and mistakes.

Just because they're getting married doesn't mean that the sins they have committed, sex they've done before are being pardon by God. We all know that teenagers nowadays are not pure anymore. Some of them are not virgin anymore. Virgins are like animals facing extinction. They exist yet hard to find.

I don't know when all of this started. Teenagers tease their friend who are still virgin. Is there a pride for not being a virgin? Is it a shame for being a virgin? The position has change. It should be a pride to stay virgin and a shame to lose it before marriage. Losing your virginity before marriage yet you take pride for doing so... this means that you take pride for committing sin.

This world is not for eternity. This life is not for eternity. Sooner or later this life, everything will perish. Just because we are not immortal, our life is short; doesn't mean that we are free to do anything as we please. Doesn't mean that we have to rush in making sins. It's the other way around. Since our life is short, we have little time to do good deeds and worship God.

Please, my brothers and sisters. There is no such thing as committing sins = pride or reputation. This is all bullshit.